We’re taught from a young age that saying “sorry” is a magic word that can fix anything. But as we grow older, we realize that a simple apology is often not enough. Especially when it comes from someone who's more interested in saving face than taking responsibility.

There are apologies, and then there are apologies. Some people have mastered the art of sounding sorry without actually meaning it. They might give you a dramatic performance, complete with tears and promises, but their actions never change. It's like watching a well-rehearsed play where you know the ending before the curtain rises.

One common tactic is the "victim apology." They act completely devastated, like they’ve committed the worst sin imaginable. It's a guilt trip wrapped in an apology. Another trick is the public apology. They make a big show of remorse in front of others, hoping you'll feel pressured to forgive them. But behind closed doors, it's business as usual.

Then there's the "sorry, not sorry" apology. They say the words, but their tone or body language tells a different story. Or they might apologize repeatedly for the same thing, without actually changing their behavior. It's like hitting a brick wall over and over again.

The most frustrating type is the apology that comes with conditions. "I'm sorry if you feel that way," or "I'm sorry, but..." These aren't apologies at all. They're just attempts to shift the blame back onto you.

A genuine apology involves taking responsibility for your actions, expressing remorse, and making amends. It's about understanding the impact of your behavior on the other person and committing to change. If you don’t see these elements in someone's apology, it's likely insincere.

If you find yourself constantly accepting fake apologies, it's time to reevaluate the relationship. Your emotional well-being is important. Don't let someone repeatedly disrespect you in the name of love.

If you’re struggling to identify genuine apologies or dealing with the aftermath of manipulative behavior, consider talking to a therapist. They can provide tools and strategies to help you build healthier relationships and improve your self-esteem.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect. Don't settle for anything less.