So, you've been together a couple of years, everything was rosy, and now it feels like you're constantly bumping heads. It's like the magic is fading. Well, let's talk about why this happens.

It's normal for relationships to go through phases. First, there's that crazy, head-over-heels stage where you can't stop thinking about each other. Then comes the settling-in period, where you figure out how to share your lives. And then, the fun begins. That's when the little annoyances start to pile up, and you wonder what happened to that amazing person you fell in love with.

A big part of this is expectations. We all have ideas about what a relationship should look like, and when things don't match up, it can cause trouble. Maybe you thought you'd always be spontaneous and adventurous, but now you're stuck in a routine. Or perhaps you imagined dividing chores differently. These mismatches can create tension.

Another thing to consider is communication. It's easy to stop talking openly and honestly when you think the other person already knows how you feel. But this can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. And let's not forget hormones. Those feel-good chemicals that made you crazy about each other at the start? They start to level out.

The past can also play a role. Your upbringing and past relationships shape your expectations and behaviors. If you bring baggage into your current relationship, it can cause problems. 

If you're struggling to overcome these challenges on your own, it might be helpful to seek professional guidance. A couples therapist can provide tools and strategies for improving communication and resolving conflict. Additionally, individual therapy can help address personal issues that might be affecting your relationship.